今年至今已去了澳門五次.以前不太明白賭徒的心理,覺得如果目標是要嬴的話,何不一次過把準備用來赌的數目一次過押下,嬴輸都是一鋪過,以免夜場夢多.不過賭了幾次之後,發覺可能自己之前把目標放錯了…完來過程都很有趣.只要認定了目的是享受過程(自己可以控制),而不是嬴錢(不到自己控制),無論結果怎樣也會開心.反之一擇千金之後,即使嬴了,只會覺得無聊.
有朋友最近拍拖了…表面上一直笑他們來得怱怱,其實都想他們幸福.不過都希望他們想清楚自己所追求的到底是什麼的一個目標,才決定要進展得多快.回想起當初我和K的開始十分迅速,完全不覺有拍拖的經過,能一起至今都算是奇蹟.以前不喜歡追求別人那幻得幻失的心情,是自己把目標弄錯了.
工作上也一樣,看見很多年稚的員工所想的是得到升職,而忽略了之間的過程,只想知如何以最快的途徑達到目的,可能會完全錯過了途中更豊富的經驗.
This year I’ve already been to Macau 5 times. In the past I didn’t understand the minds of gamblers. I thought if the goal was to win, why not bet on the full amount one’s prepared for in one go. It’s saves a lot of time whether one wins or loses. Now that I’ve played several times I realize that maybe I’ve set a wrong goal – turns out the process of gambling is actually fun. So now I just need to reset my goal to have fun in the process of gambling (something I could control) and not winning (something I can’t really control). This way regardless of the outcome I win. Otherwise even if I won I’d only shrug it off as no fun.
Some friends of mine are dating recently. On the surface it looks like I laugh at them a lot but I do wish them all the best. However, I hope they’d really think about what they’re after before deciding on how quickly they want to develop. Looking back at my beginning with K, we started quite quickly…didn’t seem like there was a dating period. It’s probably pure miracle that we’re still together. I didn’t like the sense of uncertainty in dating in the past. I’ve probably got the priorities wrong.
I see the same things at work. I lot of younger colleagues only want promotion, and don’t pay attention to the journey to get there. They only want the quickest shortcut to get there but they may miss the more important experience along the way.
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