06年十二月做了一個行為評估,以供一個管理教練作為我有沒有能力進升的參考.他總括我如果要進升,行為上可能要有些改變.
行為和性格不同…天生易改,品性難移.行為改變似乎每個人都很熟練.每次追求別人的時候行為上一定有和平時不一樣的偏差.問題是行為不一定和自己性格吻合,所以很多行為到了一段時候便會停止.到底這個偏差的行為可以維持幾耐呢?直至達到目標,目標消失,或自己失去意志為止.
賭神二裡賭神為了瞞騙對手,大賽前早幾個月他"拋浪頭"時加一個小動作.到大賽當日對手見他有那小動作時以為他"拋浪頭"而孤注一擲.最後賭神贏了,不再需要作出同一行為.當然,被欺騙的人很難再和欺騙者作為朋友.
不知很多感情的破裂是不是因為某一方面達到目的後露出了原來的尾巴而發生的呢?
In December of 06 I did a behavioral assessment. It was used by a management coach to help assess whether I’m fit to next a more senior role in the company. The result indicated that to be successful in a more senior role, I need to adjust some of my behaviors.
Behavior and character are different…you’re born with a character and it’s mighty hard to change it. Everyone seems to be able to make behvioral adjustments fine. Every time you want to go after a person you fancy you’d behave somewhat differently than you normally would. The problem with behavior, though, is that it doesn’t always align with your character. So certain behaviors will end after some time. How long can this deviated behavior last? Until you’ve reached your goal, the goal’s disappeared, or you’ve lost the will the continue.
In the movie God of Gamblers II, in order to cheat his opponents, a few months before a major tournament the God of Gambler began to do a little gesture every time he bluffed. During the major tournament, his opponent, seeing his little gesture, thinks that he’s bluffing and so places all his bets and loses. The God of Gambler wins, and no longer needs to fool anyone by his deviated behavior. Now of course anyone who’s been cheated would very unlikely be friends with the cheater ever again.
I wonder if a lot of break ups are due to that fact that once the goal of chasing after a person is accomplished the original behavior resurfaces to the other party’s surprise?
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